Nobody Is Born Racist

nobody is born racistAs I was sitting down in the comfort of my own home browsing Facebook, I came across this image of three children hugging…two black and one white. Then it hit me.

Black…

White…

Labels.

Why do we have to label everything we see? Why can’t we just accept each other as we are? We are all human, we all have a heart, we all have a soul.

Sometimes we tend to point our fingers at those who discriminate others based on colour, religion, sexual orientation, culture…when if we look within, we may be discriminating without even realising it.

I never saw black people as inferior or different than me. In fact I always make it a point to have a smile on my face ready for every single person, child and animal that I come across with every single day with the aim to spread love and happiness to all…then I realise that even by mentioning the term ‘black people’ I am automatically suggesting differences, which shouldn’t be.

I am writing this post today to share with all of you what I have realised today.

If we yearn for change within the way we perceive others, we shouldn’t wait for others to change, but we should work on our own perception on the matter. We cannot keep labelling people as white, black, Christian, Muslim, gay etc…we are all one. We are all one and the same. We all have feelings, and we all have the ultimate goal to make the most out of our lives.

Children are not born racists. It is up to us mothers, fathers, guardians, to teach our children to treat each other in the same way they want themselves to be treated no matter who they are or what they look like.

We shouldn’t just wait for the world to change…we must BE THE CHANGE. It starts with each and every one of us.

As usual my guides gave me a beautiful song to go with the subject I’m blogging about today. While searching for a video of this song I came across a masterpiece.

It was back in January 28th 1985 when over 35 very talented performers got together to create this beautiful masterpiece, without even counting the behind-the-scenes minds that helped in creating it. The result was astounding.

Apart from the wonderful result which you can view in the video I posted below, it shows that when we do get together irrespective of how different we are from each other, we can create something beautiful.

Think about how better the World will be when we all finally join hands and work towards a better life for all. We are all one. Let’s make magic together. Let us all light up our hearts guided by the compassion we all have within us, and reach out to all our brothers and sisters, creating strong bridges, heart to heart.

 

Much love & light to all xxx

 

We Are The World – Michael Jackson

 

There comes a time when we need a certain call
When the world must come together as one
There are people dying
Oh, and it’s time to lend a hand to life
The greatest gift of all

We can’t go on pretending day by day
That someone, somehow will soon make a change
We’re all a part of God’s great big family
And the truth – you know love is all we need

We are the world, we are the children
We are the ones who make a brighter day
so let’s start giving
There’s a choice we’re making
We’re saving our own lives
It’s true we’ll make a better day
Just you and me

Well, send them you your heart
So they know that someone cares
And their lives will be stronger and free
As God has shown us
By turning stone to bread
And so we all must lend a helping hand

We are the world, we are the children
We are the ones who make a brighter day
so let’s start giving
There’s a choice we’re making
We’re saving our own lives
It’s true we’ll make a better day
Just you and me

When you’re down and out
There seems no hope at all
But if you just believe
There’s no way we can fall
Well, well, well, let’s realize
That one change can only come
When we stand together as one

We are the world, we are the children
We are the ones who make a brighter day
so let’s start giving
There’s a choice we’re making
We’re saving our own lives
It’s true we’ll make a better day
Just you and me

I Am Gay

i am gayI am gay…three short words that many parents dread to hear, three short words that can rip a lot of relationships apart, from family to friends, in just a second. But need it be like this?

There is a huge misconception about gay people that says sexuality is a choice…it isn’t. Heterosexuals (those sexually oriented towards the opposite sex) assume that relationships are such by default, when in fact this depends on every person’s own feelings. Can you make a heterosexual person feel sexually interested into a person of the same sex? Of course not! Same with homosexual people…it is not a choice they make, but it is themselves coming clean about who they truly are and what they truly feel.

Homosexual people don’t just come out as gay just for fun, which leads us to honesty and trust. If someone comes to you and tells you, “I am gay“, it is because they trust you fully and that they don’t want to hide their true selves with you. Okay an initial shocking reaction may be reasonable, however, do appreciate the fact that your child/friend/relative has come to you and trusted you with something as personal as this.

Another factor that plays a role in how many of us still see homosexuals is without a doubt, religion. Certain religions (including the Christian Catholic one) see gay people as a threat to society and consider them as “sins” or “sinful people”. Some even go to extremes, saying they would rather get rid of their gay sons and lesbian daughters rather than being there for them, because they don’t want other kids to be influenced by these “sinful” people.

i am gayFor starters, all of us here on earth, we are all equal, all identical, all connected. There shouldn’t be such thing as considering any of our brothers or sisters as “sins” just because their sexual orientation is different from ours.

In addition to this, whether a man loves a man, a woman loves a woman, or a man loves a woman, it doesn’t make any difference as long as there is true love and respect. One shouldn’t be embarassed seeing gay couples in public being loving and caring to each other…what one should be embarassed with should be couples that stay together without any hint of love whatsoever. Kids wouldn’t be scandalised by seeing gay couples, they would however take a wrong impression of love if they see couples who are supposedly in love yet they fight in public and shout at each other just to prove their point, showing no respect to each other at all. It is not the sexual orientation that counts, it is true and genuine feelings.

On a personal note, considering the title of this post being “I am gay”, I am not gay, nor is anyone in my family so far. But I do educate my kids into looking for true unconditional love rather than looking for any particular sexually oriented person. That should be our primary focus for all of us parents…to teach love and encourage them to love themselves, accept themselves as they are and seek someone who can love them in the same manner in return, with respect.

I have been blessed with having quite a good amount of gay and lesbian friends, and I have absolutely nothing against them at all. They are very friendly caring respectful people that are truthful and friendly, and who don’t hide their true selves in front of others.

Ironically, my first boyfriend turned out to be gay. I didn’t know at the time and I feel he didn’t know either. Looking back I loved him with all my heart, yet I felt that though he loved me, I wasn’t all he needed…that was when I broke up with him. That moment was probably the first time I felt I had to trust my intuition and let him go even though he was everything I had ever wished for, and I was heartbroken as much as he was, because our relationship was based on innocent genuine love and respect. He probably won’t even see this article, but I genuinely wish him and his partner a lot of love and happiness.

Based on my own experience I feel 100% sure that gay people do not just wake up and decide they want to be gay…they just wake up and realise that they are.

i am gayAs I am writing this blogpost I am hoping that anyone who has just heard “I am gay” from someone they didn’t quite expect, ends up reading this. If you are one of these people, know that it is understandable that you feel torn, worried and emotional about this, but think about it. Did you love this person before he/she opened up with you? Did you respect this person and seeked his/her opinions? Did he/she matter to you? Being labelled gay shouldn’t change those same feelings that you had before for him/her. Appreciate that he/she trusted you enough to come clean about something this personal. Appreciate the truthfulness of this person.

And if this person is your own child, accept him/her as he/she is. Be there no matter what. Seek their happiness and yours. Do not stand in their way of being their true selves with you. Focus on their virtues, their loyalty, their trust…

Love unconditionally and always remember, from the sky below, we are all connected, we are all one, no matter what.

Love & Light to all xxx

 

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